Mothers as Leaders..?

Motherhood and Leadership are not often discussed on the same page. 

Women and Leadership is still something that not everyone is fully supportive of. For example, the excerpt below features some of the latest feeble reasons for not appointing women to leadership positions in business:

Reasons given by a range of chief executives and chairs of top 350 companies for not appointing more women directors:

• “I don’t think women fit comfortably into the board environment”

• “There aren’t that many women with the right credentials and depth of experience to sit on the board – the issues covered are extremely complex”

• “Most women don’t want the hassle or pressure of sitting on a board”

• “Shareholders just aren’t interested in the makeup of the board, so why should we be?”

• “My other board colleagues wouldn’t want to appoint a woman on our board”

• “All the ‘good’ women have already been snapped up”

• “We have one woman already on the board, so we are done – it is someone else’s turn”

• “There aren’t any vacancies at the moment – if there were I would think about appointing a woman”

• “We need to build the pipeline from the bottom – there just aren’t enough senior women in this sector”

• “I can’t just appoint a woman because I want to”

Male bosses' 'pitiful excuses' for lack of women in boardroom criticised

Guardian article May 31 2018

Well this kind of nonsense is precisely why Mums should not sit back and wait to be the Leaders of their homes and families.

It is only through modelling Leadership that we can change public perception of what Leadership is - and where better to start than with our own family?

I want my children to see that I can be a Leader, and that this does not depend on someone else 'bestowing' such a role on me. I do not need anyone's permission. I can seize this role for myself and show the world that I will not be limited by anyone else's definition of my role as  Mother.

When people hear the word Leadership, they might be struck with stereotypical images of corner offices, commuting and power dressing. But Leadership is so much more than that. 

Leadership is actually far more subtle, often mundane and mostly unappreciated. It is an understated yet incredibly powerful way of moving through the world, available to everyone in any given situation, particularly in Motherhood. We can all lead our families and homes. We should all lead our families and homes. At one level leadership is about having goals, vision and a strategy, at the other end it is about service, planning, organising and communicating with others.

As a leader I make sure that I know what is going on; I spend time investing in myself and my relationships, being organised and being purposeful, so that I can lead my family and home effectively.




Some of this might only take me 5 minutes, other times it might be a 30 minute activity or longer. But I am making the choice to be intentional with my role, to be the Leader of my family and home, to notice where I am spending my energy as a Mother, in the hope that I can not only deal with the everyday (often mundane) things, but that I can also look at the bigger things too - the reasons WHY I do what I do - and love it , or at least appreciate it all.

This kind of Motherhood is about being intentional. It is about creating systems that work for me and my family and home. And it is about enjoying Motherhood as an important but not all consuming part of my life - meaning that I don’t lose sight of who I am and what brings me a sense of freedom, joy , meaning and purpose.

Leadership of Mums is about setting boundaries, being organised and communicating with my husband and family in order that we have both a family life that will allow us all to experience and enjoy family success, and also take us as a couple together into old age.

What's stopping you? It's time to Lead - so let's do this!

Caroline UdallComment